alright,
hopefully this is the last post that i will have to write about this whole idiotic delusion.
the solution is easy.
____, you can ignore me and stay out of my life.
and i'll stay out of yours.
understooded?
good.
i will not attempt to be mean or bitchy.
it is a waste of my time and energy.
do NOT i repeat DO NOT try to be mean to me.
i am going to make the effort to reign in my temper and hold back all the stuff i want to say.
so you damn well make the effort too.
this means no "i hear mice squeaking" and so on so forth.

i do not really care about "reconcilation".
i think it is obvious that justification of my actions and trying to reason things out with you is pretty useless.
so here's the baseline:
STAY OUTTA MY LIFE AND I'LL STAY OUTTA YOURS
ok?
ok.
p.s sarah has kindly explained at least part of my actions. go read her blog. she has objectively summarised why i had to do this.